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The Truth About Divorce? You Decide!

If you are about to go through a divorce, consider the issues raised in the article below.  Divorce arbitration and mediation are alternatives to litigating your matter in Court.


No Matter the Charge, You Would Do Better to Retain a Lawyer.


In this short videoBergen County attorney (in divorce, family, criminal, employment law) Eric J. Aretsky explains why it is a good idea to have an attorney represent you in your municipal court case. 

Bergen County Divorce Lawyer Discusses Alternatives to Divorce

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You have become discouraged and disillusioned by the fact that you have problems, that often seem too big to ever work out.  You are not alone – everyone who has ever been married knows that issues will constantly need to be worked through.  As each issue resurfaces every so often, you are forced to make a choice:  to accept this person for who they are or to criticize them until they become who you want them to be.  Realistically, trying to change someone is an impossible job.  And who wants to be married to someone who is pretending to be someone they are not, in order to be accepted and fully loved?  That’s not true love and acceptance at all. 

engagementringCrazy About Your New Spouse, BUT You Want a Prenup!

In this day of multiple marriages, we are all entering into our nuptials with a lot more “history.”  We may have substantial assets, large incomes, or one or both parties might have large outstanding debt.  It may not be romantic, but many couples today are choosing to be 100% committed on everything but the finances.  

Therefore, a common question people ask a divorce attorney in Bergen County such as Eric or Dolores Aretsky, is what things should be included in a prenuptial agreement? Your agreement should be tailored to your individual circumstances, but here are some things that should be covered: 

Divorce: Is This the Only Answer?

The day you got married, you said your vows wholeheartedly.  You knew this was the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with.  You knew marriage would be difficult at times, but you had no idea it would ever come to the point where you would want out.

It’s probably easy to recall many wonderful times you have had together, but they are often overshadowed by the strain of all that has burdened your marriage for many months and even years.  You don’t know how to fix all that’s broken in your marriage, and wonder if divorce is the answer.  When you think of getting a divorce, the feelings are mixed.  You desire relief from the ongoing disagreements, cutting remarks, and emotional exhaustion.  On the other hand, you deeply love and care for this person you promised to love and cherish forever, and wonder if there’s another option?

Meet with Your Attorney ASAP if Divorce is Immanent!  Time Will Work Against You

You should quickly decide to work with a divorce attorney for your Bergen County divorce .  You will need to get prepared to get the most out of your first appointment. Your attorney will probably want some documents that are specific to your particular case. Every situation will be somewhat different.

There are other documents, however, that a family law attorney will generally need to see in every divorce or child custody case. In general, its a good idea to bring the following to your first appointment with an attorney:

There Is No Reason For You To Go Through a Divorce Without Help From An Experienced Attorney

Whether you were served with divorce papers or you are the one seeking a divorce, this can be a very long and difficult process for all parties involved, especially if there are children caught in the middle.  

Unfortunately, it is all too common for the two people divorcing to allow their emotions to dictate their actions, which they often regret afterward.  A lawyer is available to help sort through the issues that are most important to you, and to assist you in making appropriate preparations for the new life you will now have.  It is understandable that you desire to protect your financial stability, and this is why it is especially important for you to hire a divorce attorney.  This way, you not only desire to have your and your children’s best interests being represented, but you will have peace of mind knowing that someone is working to protect your rights, your assets and your financial future.  Having a divorce lawyer will actually protect your ability to stay financially stable once the divorce process is completed.Once you know that divorce is the next step, it is important for you to hire a family lawyer to be your guide, protector, and defender.  Here are some tips for finding a divorce/family lawyer that is a good fit for you.

    Getting a Divorce In NJ Can Be Very Fast……Or Not.

    You’ve tried everything, but you really need to end your marriage.  Or, you don’t really want the marriage to end, but your spouse has decided for both of you.  Now that the decision has been made, you’d like to get it behind you as fast as possible.  

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    sad-kid Is Your Ex Taking Advantage of You?  Child Visitation Rights after Divorce in NJ

    The first place to secure visitation rights is during the negotiations leading up to your final divorce decree.  If you are not going to have primary physical custody, then you are going to want to maximize the amount of time you can spend with your children.

    Even if you are going to be the primary care provider, and the kids will be with you most of the time, getting a clear understanding of when your ex can visit is one of the most important parts of the process of your divorce

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     Who Gets Custody of Your Children in New Jersey and WHY?

    As Bergen County divorce lawyers, we want you to understand your rights when it comes to how the courts will determine custody.

    If you are confused about the standard custody plan, listen up: Contrary to popular belief, there is no “standard” custody and visitation plan in Bergen County, or anywhere in New Jersey. Your arrangement will be based on your family. A number of factors will be considered. The court’s standard in child custody cases is “the best interests of the child”.  In determining the best interests of the child, the court considers a number of factors including the home environments, the ages of the children, their relationship to each parent, the parents’ willingness to cooperate with one another, and other factors. A divorce lawyer will build a case for you based on your desires for custody and visitation, and what you feel is in the best interests of your children.The court will use the “best interest” factors to determine legal custody, physical custody, and visitation. Legal custody refers to who makes major decisions, and in New Jersey, this is commonly shared. Physical custody refers to the parent who the children live with most of the time. Visitation refers to the time spent with the parent who does not have physical custody.

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